It’s Time to Expand the Golden Rule

Do unto others . . . You know the rest. . . . as you would have them do unto you. The Golden Rule has been around throughout history and across cultures, and I wholeheartedly agree that we should treat others as we would like to be treated. What what about us? Shouldn’t we treat ourselves just as well? Do unto yourself as you would have others to do unto you. I think we should. To build our own well-being for its own sake as well as to build our positive capacity to serve others. Not Quite Grey Gardens For the past four months, my house has been cleaner than, well, ever. It’s no coincidence that a dear friend has stayed over for a weekly break from her epic commute for exactly that long.   It’s not like my house was a recreation of Grey Gardens, but I do have this habit. . . .

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How This Late Boomer Helps Late Millennials Navigate Career Success

You’ve walked around 24/7 with a pocket full of wizardry – the entire internet on your phone – practically since you could walk. Why would your hire someone your parents’ age (or older) to help you launch your career? How can someone who grew up with phones attached to a wall, black and white TV, and encyclopedias instead of Wikipedia, possibly help you? Because I’ve been there. I may have sent my resume by snail mail. In an envelope. With a stamp. But while the logistics of launching a career post-college have changed, the human side is still pretty much the same. My journey from school to work wasn’t pretty. Much of it was way harder than it needed to be and some of it really sucked. But I ultimately crafted a career that lights me up. Every. Single. Day, In fact, one of the things I love best  is helping. . . .

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When Clutter Sparks Joy

Like the most of the folks I’m connected with on social media, I’m peppering my posts with Kondoisms these days. Didn’t read the book. Still, I Kondoized my Facebook connections in late 2016, exactly when most of the news stopped sparking even the tiniest bit of joy. Did watch the Netflix series, including one episode during a 3:00 a.m. bout of insomnia. Followed it up by tidying a drawer. Three weeks later, my workout gear is neatly folded and still sparks joy.  The rest of my house is still far from Kondo level tidy. Likely always always will be. Which is fine, partly because I keep finding joy amid the clutter. Example: a journal from a workshop I took called Teaching as a Spiritual Journey, back when my career would have been better described as Teaching as an Exercise in Self-Torture. In particular, notes about the highs and lows of my job. Entries. . . .

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The Gift of Clarity

I just made a decision. I said “no” to doing something I love that would have helped someone whom I respect. Without hemming or hawing. Without agonizing over pros and cons or what if’s.  Without making excuses and without feeling guilty. Within seconds, I responded to a request with a clear “no.” This is HUGE for me. Not so long ago, it would have felt impossible. If it feels that way to you, I so get it. In the not so distant past, I would have weighed options. I would have felt guilty not being able to “help out,” even when I knew I’d be resentful and wouldn’t show up as my best self. I would have waited until the last minute to respond, unwilling to own the decision that I knew with every fiber of my being was the right one. I would have wasted time and energy thinking. . . .

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Thank for Little, Thank for Much

Who does not thank for little will not thank for much.  Estonian proverb According to a review of the role of gratitude in cultivating well-being published in Clinical Psychology Review, practicing gratitude can lower blood pressure, improve immune function, promote happiness and well-being, and spur acts of helpfulness, generosity, and cooperation. Think of a way you can add small infusions of gratitude to your days this week. Try it out and notice what happens.

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