I am certain that we find what we seek.
No, I’m not going full-on Law of Attraction here. I’ll never fully abandon left-brained critical thinking or Philly girl skepticism.
And yet … I’ve experienced too much, well, magic, to discount my certainty that we find what we seek.
Even if I’m wrong, that’s fine with me. Here’s why.
Getting clear about what I want and intentionally seeking what delights me helps me grow gladness, and that fuels me to navigate the inevitable stuff that makes me mad, sad, and afraid.
Seeking and Finding Everywhere
I love my car. Subaru Forester. Red. 2007. The odometer’s nearing 180,000, and I fully intend to be behind the wheel when it reaches the 200K mark.
I love that I bought it all by myself, with no wingman to help negotiate the deal, years before online intel minimized the Dance of the Hagglers between customer and salesperson.
I love how it looks, peeling paint on the back bumper and all. I love how the driver’s seat perfectly fits my backside, even if I can’t sing along to “Defying Gravity” from that seat since the broken CD player ate my Wicked soundtrack ages ago. I love years of no car payments, even when it feels like I’m singlehandedly putting my mechanic’s kids through college.
I love the daily experience and memories of driving my car, the friends and relatives along for the rides, and the places it takes us.
It’s no surprise that, even when I’m not consciously thinking about my car, I notice its “cousins” everywhere. Trail in Phoenix. Hotel in Colorado. Every single supermarket. On the way to a meeting recently, I saw a car like mine pull into a neighborhood near me; same exact car pulled out from the same exact street as I drove by, hours later, on my way home. What are the chances?
After I outlined this post in my head, I went on an errand, parked my car, looked into the rear view mirror and then noticed the car across the aisle.
Subaru. Forester. Red. Coincidence? I don’t care. It made me happy.
What Magic Do You Seek?
It’s about more than a car. And way more than coincidence.
It’s a reminder that we find what we seek.
When you seek what delights you, noticing with intention in small, consistent ways, you’ll to notice more and more of what you seek, with less effort. And that, my friend, creates an upward spiral of positive emotion to that will fortify you as you navigate the negative stuff that our brains are naturally wired to notice.
So what do you want more of? Happiness? Joy? Delight? Awe? Excitement? Peace? What’s your red Forester? Get clear about that and start expecting to notice it and experiencing the delight that goes with that noticing.
There will always be things that make us mad, sad, and afraid. Don’t believe me? Go watch the news for ten minutes. Five, even.
Trying to pretend away the negative rarely, by which I mean never, works. And it’s exhausting.
So stop burning energy by trying to pretend away the negative and start getting clear about what you really seek. Intentionally notice it, take delight in it, celebrate it.
My hunch is that you’ll start seeing a lot more of your version of red Foresters in no time.
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